I thought your thing was S&M?
Anyways, there is a lot of me being funny still going on in my life, but no BDSM, so I guess for the moment being funny is my only thing.
They probably browse and notice that all the regulars pretty much ignore the new people until they break the door down and force themselves into the thick of things. And they don't have the balls to do it.
General sites kind of suck in general. If I could find a good Celtics specific forum I'd have bailed on my main basketball site long ago.